One of the first steps to navigating this feeling of being "pulled between two lives" is to identify your "why." Your purpose is what drives your daily actions and decisions. Sometimes, in the whirlwind of motherhood, we can lose sight of that.
Take a moment to reflect on your three "MITs" or Most Important Things. They may be family, fitness, faith, personal development, home work, or something entirely different. This insight is the key to ensuring that your time and energy are in the places that matter the most to you and bring you the most fulfillment.
You may find those MITs shift and change in different seasons of life - and that's ok! Staying connected to the core of what you most value in each season of motherhood helps bring you the most fulfillment.
Once you’ve rediscovered your “why,” it’s time to examine where your hours are actually going. Many of us feel like time slips away, often wondering, “Where did the day go?” Whether it's mindlessly scrolling through social media or handling unexpected distractions, we often find that the day gets filled without us even realizing it.
Tools like time-tracking apps (such as Clockify) or even an old-school journal can help you become more aware of how you're spending your minutes. The key isn’t to judge yourself—it’s to observe. Do your daily activities reflect your priorities? If not, it’s time to make a change.